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Children who are not sociable and unfriendly with others


Many times we can see how the child frowns, crosses his arms, fixes his gaze on a distant point when we speak to him, immediately becomes impatient, falls to the ground and screams when a limit is established.

By having this type of behavior and "not very social" attitudes, the child manages to generate rejection from those with whom he interacts. They are known by the label of unfriendly o little sociable children.

In the evolutionary development of the child, it is very important to look at the genetic factors with which it is born and the environment in which it develops throughout the life cycle.

The child's temperament will be shaped by that genetic inheritance that the child brings at birth, which is related to:

- With the ability of the little one to adapt.

- With your state of mind.

Later, and thanks to the contact that the child has with his environment, he begins to form his character. Thus, the education and culture that the child receives from his family environment, from the friends around him and from the school will influence the temperamental base with which he is born.

In this way, the temperament and character of the child will be those that will shape the personality of the child. Therefore, whether the child is unpleasant is not a question of whether he is bad or good. Simply the child is as he is.

Labels are a value judgment that restricts the child's personality by focusing it on only one of the characteristics that define the child. When adults refer to children by highlighting some of the repetitive, annoying behaviors, socially frowned upon or in which they stand out, what they do is use labels.

Using the unfriendly label even without malicious intent makes the child pigeonhole. That is to say, the little one assumes that it is like that and feels limited by his defects to abilities. This can condition their behavior, in addition to generating identity problems in the child and contributing to the child's low self-esteem.

The child is not "unfriendly" because yes. If he behaves in a certain way, it is for some reason. In this case, children are generally labeled as unfriendly because they feel angry and it is their way of expressing it. Anger is one of the emotions that causes the most imbalance in people. Some of the causes for which the child is frustrated and seems unfriendly can be:

- That you feel lacking in limits.

- Feel insecure.

- Or be sentimentally confused.

It is important to know that due to the temperament with which children are born, they are not a “white book” in which parents can write. Genetic factors ensure that this book is already started and parents have to complete it.

In order to do so, parents can help their children by using the environment and following these 6 tips:

1 - To think that being "unfriendly" is neither good nor bad, it is just one expression of frustration. Adults should avoid saying. "Don't be unfriendly", "Don't yell." Instead, indicate that frustration is an emotion that we can feel, but that when we feel it we must vent it in a place where it does not affect others or themselves.

2 - Don't be intimidated by kids' tantrums, tantrums, or anger. If they feel intimidated, then they have won their battle. As parents we must be firm, never harsh, just firm. Firmness consists in having in mind what is going to be done, and thus proceed with the child even if the little one is in chaos. The father must show that he is in control of the situation.

3 - Children must be taught limits and well-defined routines with them so that they feel safe.

4 - Cultivate empathy with them. When they are violent or borderline, wait for it to pass and then ask them to see the consequence of their actions.

5 - Parents of a child labeled "unfriendly" they should not blame themselves thinking it is because they are doing it wrong.

6 - What is valid for one child may not be valid for another. So they will have to be treated differently.

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