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How many times have we doubted about a punishment? Or does the punishment suddenly stop working and our child continues 'on the wrong track'? It is true that we must teach our children a series of rules and limits that they must respect. But ... what do we do if they don't?
We offer you alternatives to punishment, which according to advocates of positive education or discipline, work like a charm with children. Try these 7 tools to educate a child without punishment and see the results.
Getting children to respect the rules and limits can be a complex task when our child's personality tends to be rebellious or 'defiant' towards parents. There are more submissive children who accept the imposition of norms very well, but ... What happens when our child constantly tries to push the limits? Do we punish him? And how do we punish him? Depriving him of a game? To the thinking corner? A week without going out on the street?
Defenders of positive education see punishment as the last alternative. Before, according to them, you should try to 'channel' the child through other tools. Do you want to know which ones? Write down these 7 essential tools to educate a child without punishment:
1. Create routines. Routines help the child know what to do at all times. For example, if you create a routine and stick to a lunch and dinner schedule, it will be easier to explain why they should stop playing. He will have internalized a schedule. The schedules with pictograms or images help a lot, a visual schedule that you can always have on hand to consult, in a visible place such as the living room or your room.
2. Offers options, but limited. It is not about giving our son absolute freedom to choose what he wants, but rather offering him more than one option. In this way, you will feel that your voice is important too and that your decisions are being respected. For example: 'Do you prefer black shoes or blue ones?' 'Do you want strawberry or plain yogurt?' It will suffice that you offer two options. He must choose one of the two.
3. Let him help and participate in the housework. Sometimes children don't do anything at home because we don't give them a choice ... we end up doing everything ourselves. We clean, we collect his things ... Why not 'give' him some simple task that he can do at home so that he also feels useful? You will discover how many benefits it has for him and for the whole family. Your child will feel that they trust him and it will benefit him in the increase of autonomy. For you it will be a relief to see that he collaborates at home.
4. Show respect towards him and you will get him to respect you. Respect is achieved with respect. If you listen to your son, let him talk, offer him to participate in chores, you are amazed at his achievements and congratulate him ... If you show respect for him, surely he will pay you in the same coin.
5. Always with a sense of humor. Positive thinking works wonders. The sense of humor, too. Do not give so much importance to banal things and yes to what really has it. Give your child smiles and laughter, because with a sense of humor, everything works better. Theater, irony and exaggeration work very well with them. For example, imagine that your child does not want to wake up to go to school ... instead of yelling at him to get up now, how about you walk in making the sound of a robot and say something like 'Hi, I'm nono, the crane robot. I come to pick up the sleepy children ... yuuuu '.
6. Empathy is key. If you educate your child from empathy and get him to develop it too, you will have a long way to go so that he respects the rules and limits at home. Sometimes children don't want to respect boundaries simply because they don't understand why they should. As soon as they realize that it is not to your liking but it must be like that, that you also suffer when you have to scold them ... They will be more aware of the need to respect those limits.
7. Kilos and kilos of patience. Think that after all your child is a child, and that he is still learning. Let him be wrong because it is the best way for him to learn, through error. Yes, it is tiring because it is not one, but a thousand times that will challenge you, but with a lot of patience, you will finally win that 'battle'.
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