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Be careful with the answers we give to children


How many times has your child asked you a question that you don't really know what answer?

Children ask questions without knowing if it is complex or not, and they hope that the answer you give them is quick and valid for all kinds of situations.

The words we use, as well as the tone, will influence the child's subconscious for life, so we must have a lot Be careful with the answers we give children without thinking.

There are times when it is very difficult to find the proper response, especially when they ask us something that we have never considered before.

It is important that you have prepared what you will say to him when you come across these types of situations, because otherwise you may give him any answer without thinking, and the answers said are often those that come from unjustified prejudices.

Depending on the age of the child, the answer you give will be part of the foundations of your logic and his thinking, so he will not consider modifying it unless he knows how to differentiate when your answer is adequate and when it is not (a very difficult fact because considering it wrong would be to contradict you even though you are his reference).

The foundations of logic and thought are absolute and immovable truths that we support the most complex reasoning on, and are necessary to reach the complexity we reach as we advance in our learning (both academically and personally ).

These foundations or absolute truths will not change spontaneously in children and can have repercussions on the quality of relationship with others and in school performance.

And it is that, as part of their unreasonable logic (from the answer given by an adult), the child will not realize that he needs to change that truth until he is old enough and this causes him great problems.

Also think that the more shocking The word you say, the more its meaning will permeate the matter in question. In other words, if you affirm something outright, that will be the absolute truth first (the first truth to which the subject in question refers), so it will be very difficult to change that answer, even if you are the one who gives it the return.

The tone you use is especially important, because it gives strength to the words and this affects the degree of attention that the child will put on them (the more impetus, the more value will be what you are saying and the more important it will be, so the child will try harder in memorize it).

That is why it is important that you identify these situations in which you give a quick and unreasonable response because, even if I get you out of a hurry, the most likely is that you have prejudiced connotations with which you may not agree.

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